Words have tremendous power to build, or they have the power to destroy. When we use words, we have the power to change how we feel simply by the words we choose to describe our experience or feelings. In life, a big part of reaching our goals and getting what we want has to do with communication with others. By using words in a positive and powerful way, your communication with others will dramatically increase in effectively.
The technique I describe here is one powerful and fun way to increase your effective communication with others.
How many times a day are you asked, “How’s it going?” And how many times do you say, “Fine”. Typically this happens in passing, and neither person even thinks about what is being said, and beyond that, there is no emotional connection. One simple way make that exchange electric and fun is to use positive words. Using positive words in this case changes the entire experience.
So, when someone asks you, “How’s it going?” What should you say? You’ll want to have planned ahead what you’ll say, and you want it to be dramatic and impactful. Your response has the power to help you feel wonderful, and at the same time, break the mental pattern of the person who asked you the question. What you really want is to have the person almost become puzzled at your answer because they’ve never heard that type of response before. It’s a lot of fun when that happens!
As an example, I’ve created a list of 101 words or phrases that could be said to the question, “How are you doing?” The list isn’t exhaustive, yet it gives you a start. Use the list choosing words from it to say in your response. Say, “I’m feeling (or doing)…(and then use a word on the list).” Make sure you say it with enthusiasm. For example, you can say, “I’m feeling stupendous!” Say that out loud with gusto and see if it doesn’t change immediately the way you feel.
An even more effective way of responding is to take a combination of the words from the list and put them together. For example, the word “particular” may be confusing to most people (and yourself) if you were to respond simply, “I’m feeling particular!” Yet, if you combine it with another powerfully positive work such as “fantastic”, then you are able to respond by saying, “I’m feeling particularly fantastic!” Wow! What a response! The more creative you are, the more fun it will be.
Look over each of the words and figure out how you could use them in your response.
101 Powerfully Positive Words (in no particular order):
7. The best
8. Better than ever
28. Out of this world
37. Best ever
49. On top of the world
77. Beyond belief
90. Hard to believe
91. Beyond compare
As you look over the list of 101 words, some of them may seem odd; those words alone may not be powerful, yet combining them with others, they are “overwhelmingly unstoppable!” 🙂 Use your creativity and imagination. Begin each day with the exact response you’ll use for that day, and use it every time someone asks you that question. Notice how people react. If you can get a smile out of them, you’re on the right track. Before long, you will feel differently in a very positive and powerful way.
Remember, words are more powerful than most people imagine. Using words powerfully gives you an enormous advantage over others because most people limit their experience by their limited vocabularies. Try this technique and see if it doesn’t make a world of difference for you.
Please, send me an email and let me know how this worked for you.
Now go forth and use words positively and powerfully!